Home From the Wedding

First Dance

First Dance

Well, that boy of ours certainly lucked out.  And we got lucky too.  We’ve gained a beautiful daughter and couldn’t be happier.  And this weekend was more wonderful and more fun than I could have ever imagined.

We had a bit of a crisis at the welcome dinner the night before the wedding. (I told Sean and Carly awhile ago that I hoped everything would go perfectly but if it didn’t, it would be a great family story in the years to come.  So we got our family story at the  welcome dinner)  All the kids finished eating and were racing around right outside the restaurant and poor Lana lost her balance or something and smashed her forehead against a post.  She came back inside sobbing and covered in blood….more worried about how she would look for the wedding than actually hurt.  One of the guests was a nurse and took a good look at her once the bleeding was under control and told us she did NOT need stitches.   It took her a long time to calm down but at least Erin and Lana didn’t have to spend half the night in the emergency room right before the wedding. And the young woman who did our makeup did a great job on her face (as well as on mine.  I looked twenty years younger!)

Other than the bloody mess the night before the wedding, everything was just perfect.  Carly’s brother in law officiated and was absolutely amazing.  The ceremony was beautiful.  Carly had put it together.  Sean gave me something from Robert Penn Warren to read.  I didn’t love it so I rewrote parts.  He couldn’t believe I was editing it.  Nobody but his mother would mess with Robert Penn Warren.

They wrote their own vows.  I loved them both but I really wish I had a copy of Sean’s…they were so Sean.  He promised not to put the candy on the top shelf (he’s tall, she’s not) and  to admit when he was wrong (I don’t remember him ever doing that!) along with the traditional, beautiful promises.   The hotel was gorgeous and their wedding service was on a patio overlooking the Pacific Ocean.  Sean and Carly left us at sunset with the photographer to get pictures on a cliff with the sun going down.  Can’t wait to see those although I’m glad I didn’t know exactly where they were taking those photos.  The cliffs are dangerous!

There was lots of dancing and Lana was in the middle of it all.  I don’t think she missed one dance all night.  Calli was the social one…I think she met everyone at the wedding and chatted with them. She even got up and had something to say when the toasts came around.  Declan was promoted, he will tell you, from “fake ring bearer” (because they weren’t sure they wanted to trust him with the real rings) to “real ring bearer” and leaped out of his seat to hand out the rings as soon as he heard the magic words.  He has a real sweet tooth.  Note the photo below that our niece, Jackie, got.  He had opened his little gift box at the table as soon as he sat in his seat and wolfed down the two chocolates that were in there.  He also had his eye on the cake.  When they brought the kids ice cream at the end of their meal, he said to Erin, “I still get cake, right?”

It was a beautiful group….not a big wedding.  It was so far away and so many people couldn’t come.  I think that made us even more grateful for the ones who traveled such great distances to celebrate with us.  Friends of Sean and Carly came from London, from DC and North Carolina.  Carly’s cousin flew in from China where he’s teaching English.  Family came from Texas and Colorado.  Both of Carly’s grandmothers who are in their nineties were there, one from Cleveland and one from New Jersey.

Sean and Carly are on their way to Kauai.  We flew home on the red eye last night, slept a bit on the plane but not enough.  Arrived home at 9:00 am and went promptly to bed and got up at noon.  Now it’s time to do laundry and to go through the accumulated mail and then out to the pool.  And yes, we both fell in love with La Jolla…stunning views and perfect weather every day.

And finally, the weekend ended so sadly.  Jerry’s sister, Ann, who has been sick for several years had a heart attack earlier in the week.  She’s been at a nursing home in Massachusetts for quite awhile and had been gradually slowing down.  Jerry and I had had lunch with her when we visited in June.  It was obvious that she wasn’t doing well but honestly, she was as cheerful as ever, asking about the coming wedding and about the kids and telling us about her own grandkids.  She died yesterday afternoon.  We’re still waiting to hear about arrangements but it looks like they’ll have a memorial service for her in the fall.  And even though it was a blessing (she was so compromised from failing health for so long) it’s still hard.  Jerry lost a brother in 2013 and this is the second sibling to leave us.  It makes us so aware of our own mortality.

And I am very aware of how lucky I am that I was able to celebrate this weekend.  Sean said to me when we were dancing the mother/groom dance (to “Forever Young”…the slow version) “I’m just glad you’re here, mom.”  Me too.  I’m glad I was there.  And I hope I’ll be around for many more family weddings to come.

Erin and Lana ...hair done, ready to get dressed.

Erin and Lana …hair done, ready to get dressed.

Hair and makeup done..ready to get dressed

Hair and makeup done..ready to get dressed

Ceremony on the patio in a couple hours

Ceremony on the patio in a couple hours

Ring bearer ready to go

Ring bearer ready to go

Ceremony beginning

Ceremony beginning

Junior bridesmaids

Junior bridesmaids

Loved their hair

Loved their hair

Wedding vows

Wedding vows

Cousins

Cousins

Sean and Carly Ginley

Sean and Carly Ginley

Table at the reception

Table at the reception

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Declan caught eating the chocolate treat BEFORE dinner

Declan caught eating the chocolate treat BEFORE dinner

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14 thoughts on “Home From the Wedding

  1. Mary, absolutely perfect! So sorry about Jerrys sister but she’s finished with her battle & that’s a blessing.

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  2. You look positively radiant Mary! And the guy on your arm ain’t too bad either. Enjoyed the pictures and
    your stories. It’s so fulfilling to see your children happy. We’re so blessed!

  3. Mary, just beautiful,  posting, wedding and pictures.   How lucky you are to have such a wonderful family! !!

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  4. The tears are running down my face, but I’m smiling. Thanks for sharing the joy! So sorry about Jerry’s sister, but she was alive during the wedding and may have felt some connection before she left you.

  5. So happy all went well. The pictures are beautiful as I’m sure the whole day was! My happy memories!
    This truly was a blessing for you I know and also for your family and friends! Missed you..see you tomorrow bright and early on the beach!

  6. Thanks for sharing pics of the “big day”…….it was wonderful seeing them.
    Many happy memories were made on that special day, and I’m glad that Lana’s accident wasn’t more serious.

  7. Beautiful wedding memories and congratulations to the happy couple. Please give Jerry my best and I’m so sorry for the loss of his sister.

  8. Thanks for sharing these wonderful pictures and your thoughts about this wedding. These memories will always be special. Tell Jerry, I am so sorry about his sister. It is hard to lose a sibling even though you know they are in better places.

  9. Thank you for sharing your beautiful pictures and classic family stories. What a wonderful picture of you and Jerry! So elegant together. And your grandchildren are precious. Strange how life gives us all ranges of emotions regardless of the occasion. We are blessed to be around to witness it all.

  10. Beautiful pictures, Mary!! Congratulations to all of you. Carly and Sean are a very handsome couple, I wish them the best.
    By the way, you look stunning!

  11. Pixie Holbrook

    Gorgeous couple, gorgeous children, gorgeous tables, gorgeous Mary and Jerry! I need another adjective! So happy for you, Mary!

  12. Stunning, all of you! The wedding reminds me of Alicia’s in the kinds of memories that were created: beautiful toasts by Celso’s brother and my nephew (like a brother to Ali); a poem by Angel that had us all in tears; dancing to salsa, soul, and flamenco (Celso’s mother is a flamenco dance teacher and sang some flamenco songs). We’re still talking about it; I know you will too, for many years. So glad you got to enjoy this memorable day.

  13. Karen Rafferty

    What lovely pictures – you are radiant! So happy for you all!

    Send our sympathies to Jerry on Ann’s passing. What a bittersweet way to end the weekend, but glad she was alive for the wedding. Am sure her heart was with you all.

  14. Carol Connery

    Such a beautiful couple and beautiful family! And you my dear friend look stunning!! It must have been so tough on you though with Jerry’s sister’s passing, I am so very sorry for your loss. How wonderful though you could be together with those gorgeous grandchildren for such a joyous event!

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